Jul 4, 2013

The "Proposed" New Warning System in M/M Romance - WTF??

Warnings: Contains dub-con, excessive violence, and
an explicit on-page m/f oral scene

What would you think if you ran into a warning like this?
Is it really necessary to categorize a m/f oral sex scene the same as dub-con or excessive violence?
Is m/f really a trigger like say: tentacle rape or mentions of physical abuse?

For those following the current kerfuffle in the M/M romance world, you know where the frustration and anger lies. Author's apparently are being very disrespectful to their readers by including m/f sex scenes in their stories and not warning for them.

Damn. Just... damn. Really? 

This isn't a new issue. It's been going on for years and more recently with one of my publishers and an awesome author who didn't warn for such thing. 

Why didn't they warn for it? Well, it shouldn't be necessary.

When I got out of the fanfic community, I guess I thought I wouldn't have to include numerous warnings like these because we (as adults) shouldn't need a silly paragraph or two of "Warnings: this book contains all these triggery things so pull your big girl panties up and hang on." But to mix m/f scenes in with the necessary warnings: tentacle rape, dub-con, non-con, excessive violence, mentions of prior physical abuse, or what have you? 

For comparison, let's change "warning" to "contains".

"Contains excessive violence, dub-con, and an explicit m/f oral scene."

I guess I should just add everything that my book contains or that could be a possible 'trigger': "Contains: excessive violence, dub-con, an explicit m/f oral scene, blood, sexy vampires with long hair, pale skin, sharp fangs, and a whole shit ton more of stuff that you may not like."

Will it be necessary some day? Is m/f sex that triggery? :/

Sure, as a reader, I may run into a m/f sex scene that was never warned for. I skim over it and get right back into the action. If it's a necessary component to the story, it shouldn't necessarily need to be warned for.

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